Someone explain the thought proccess of guys.

[dakkagor]

I have found that trying to categorise people into broad groups is a largely pointless exercise.

I'm a guy. I like cleaning. It annoys me when my house is untidy or dirty, infact, it rather depresses me and the only way to fix it is to pull on some marigolds and get cleaning. I find hand washing up dishes to be the most relaxing task in the world. I don't know the first thing about car engines and could give less than half a damn about just about any sport you care to mention.

My ex was a clutterbug, never threw anything away. Had the attention span of a mayfly, was crazy about sex (I mean seriously. . ., I have some stories), no sense of time, was always late. Also, could hardly stand CHOCOLATE.. It took me a year to figure that one out. Loved video games, real ale, and kept a dead cat in the freezer for about 6 months.

Maybe we are both outliers on the graphs of manhood and womanliness respectively, but I doubt it. Everyone is a random mash of genetics and circumstance, upbringing and life choices, leading to billions of completely iindividual people, trapped in their own heads, all mad.
When you look at it like that the world, and the sexes, make a lot more sense.

[SQJPure]

kept a dead cat in the freezer for about 6 months.

She sounds awesome!!!

[dakkagor]

Oh she is. Completely bonkers, but awesome.

[Lox]

Eeeh. I grew up believing every person is individual, and that there is no mold for men or women. Just go with the flow, and if it feels right, you're on the right path. That's always been my decision making paradigm in life.

[SikstaSlathalin]

Everyone is just nuts males females all across the board.

[Sy23]

While accepting dakkagor's anecdote, I still feel that there are certain broad traits that go with being male or female respectively. Taken overall, women are more likely than men to make housework an important part of their life, enjoy markets and shopping and romantic comedies, remember anniversaries and have difficulty reading maps. Men are more likely to forget to change their underwear, annex the TV remote, enjoy action movies or notice the inherent humor in bodily functions.

That's not to say that this is universal (My mom loves the "Diehard" series, for example, and I feel squiffy if I don't have fresh underpants every day) just a general trend that comes with the hormonal territory. Nor do I say that a man or woman who fails to have these traits is necessarily "unfeminine" or "unmasculine" respectively. It's just that I can't help noticing there are some general trends...

[Rayne7]

Eh, when it comes to all people, men and women alike, the thing thats works best for me is: shut up and listen. When someone's got a problem of any kind, listen. When they wanna hang out, do so. If it's guys and there ends up being a barfight, either go back to back and fight off those around you as best you can (if they're not too drunk and actually know what they're doing) or sit back and have a beer while they get pommeled for their stupidity and act like you were helping when they wake up in the hospital bed. Unless you're stupid like me, in which case you help them anyways and you both end up wondering who came out better.

With women, listen to them even if they're not talking about anything important. This makes them feel good and keeps you out of trouble. When they feel sad, do something to show you care. When they're about ready to tear your head from your shoulders, wrap your arms around them and let them vent out their frustrations, then show them that there's nothing to forgive when they feel bad for kneeing you in the nuts when you hugged them. And when there's a fight, make sure you protect them. Do these things, and things are often less complicated.

As for how the minds work, it's simple: Women tend to be more abstract than physical, and therefore often romanticize things to an extent. Men are more physical than abstract; whereas women will have a verbal disagreement and still dislike each other, men normally exchange a few punches then shake hands and walk away friends. Of course, none of these are absolutes; there are so many exceptions that I would consider this more of theory than law in terms of science.

This is my own generalized idea, and, quite frankly, I have no idea why I even tacked on the first two parts to my response, but there it is. Take it as you will.

[L'amourOiseau]

When I was a young lass, my dad informed me that "guys who are worth the effort" treasure honesty and communication above all other things. That sort of removes the whole "mysterious" element, I've found, and allows people to understand each other better, no matter how different.

Of course, when you're a teenager, honesty and communication FREAKS EVERYBODY OUT for whatever reason, and does not bring the boys to the yard it has proven to be a more successful trait in my adult years, however...

[Sy23]

Since it's a well-known fact that Lovebird can't even go out to her own mailbox without stepping over the bodies of guys that are falling at her feet - I strongly suspect some understatement in the above posting!

[L'amourOiseau]

Sy, it's not my fault that Martha Stewart says that the bodies of the fallen make excellent lawn fertilizer.

It's a good thing. >D